人很容易將自己的行為合理化（至少我是這樣）。 平常的時候要檢視自己很容易, 甚至可以把自己罵得一文不值。不過真正發生事情的時候, 合理化還是免不了。不知道這不是某種生物的自我保護機制之類的, 自我行為合理化有好有壞, 有的時候阿Ｑ一下無傷大雅, 有的時候只是自己慢慢把自己逼向絕境。
Dyson 在自傳裡面敘述過這樣一段心路歷程, 讓我覺得非常感慨：I began to look backward and to ask myself how it happened that I let myself began involved in this crazy game of murder. Since the beginning of the war I had been retreating step by step from one moral position to another, until at the end I had no moral position at all. At the beginning of the war I believed fiercely in the brotherhood of man, called myself a follower of Gandhi, and was morally opposed to all violence. After a year of war I retreated and said, Unfortunately nonviolent resistance against Hitler is impracticable, but I am still morally opposed to bombing. A few years later I said, Unfortunately it seems that bombing is necessary in order to win the war, and so I am willing to go to work for Bomber Command, but I am still morally opposed to bombing cities indiscriminately. After I arrived at Bomber Command I said, Unfortunately it turns out that we are after all bombing cities indiscriminately, but this is morally justified as it is helping to win the war. A year later I said, Unfortunately it seems that our bombing is not really helping to win the war, but at least I am morally justified in working to save the lives of the bomber crews. In the last spring of the war I could no longer find any excuses. Mike had fought single-handed the battle of the escape hatches and had indeed saved many lives. I had saved none. I had surrendered one moral principle after another, and in the end it was all for nothing....Thirty years later I stood with my wife and children in the air raid shelter in the garden of my wife's uncle's home in East Germany. My wife's uncle had built the shelter solidly out of brick and steel. Several bomb craters could still be traced in the ground nearby. After thirty years the roof of the shelter was still sound and the floor dry. The house stands in a village southwest of Berlin. During the years I was at Bomber Command, my wife lived in that house. She was still a child. The nights when the bombers came over she spent in the shelter. No doubt she was sitting there the night Wing Commander MacGown came over, when I was drinking beer with the boys at Wyton."
不斷自我合理化的後果, 常常是我們在不自覺中不斷的失去自己的價值。到最後發現, 自己不知道自己站在哪裡了。合理化有的時候可以轉變一個人的心情（就像阿Ｑ）, 讓人重新再出發, 然而過度的耽溺, 最後可能會走不出來。
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